he tries to be a good husband and dad, works hard and supports the family, but i have uncovered a complex and lengthy web of outrageous lies he has told me since the day we met about his past...everything from being friends with certain celebrities to crying about his war injuries and time in viet nam...painted himself as a hero who bodyguarded important dignitaries to very specific purple hearts, etc...i've learned in the last 2 weeks that there is not one drop of truth to any of it...don't tell me to ask him...he started seeing a mental health professional, but i dare not confront him with these lies..too alarmingly shocking...he doesn't know i know the truth...he tells the same lies to friends, family and strangers..WHY? WHY? WHY? what mental illness would cause this?
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My ex was and still is the same. He is a pathological liar, and I believe the proper medical term is psychopath. He did the mental health professional thing but then stopped it, although he kept up the pretence of still attending and benefiting from it. His parents were unable to help him throughout his childhood and when he got older they buried their heads in the sand. Although he was a great guy and I loved him dearly, but every now and again, he became violent and for my safety and the children's we had to leave him. Ignoring the problem didn't help and confronting him certainly didn't. This is a professional problem that you are inadequate to deal with and it makes you look bad to other people too, unfortunately. A word of warning, keep on your toes with your children because they will or may have the same tendencies. If they are young, go out of your way to double check everything they claim and confront them if you notice a similar pattern. Good luck with this and try to take comfort with the fact that it is a mental problem that was there long before you came on the scene.
Shame..lack of feelings of accomplishment.
Are either of his parents or siblings like that? The apple doesnt fall too far from the tree
Maybe hes just a compulsive lier. I know a few people like that, they're constantly telling bullshi.t lies.
Some people have a medical condition where they seek sympathy or attention/praise.
maybe post traumatic disorder i think its called. Maybe he did live some of this stuff and is trying to hide it. Maybe he is embarresed about what he wrote or just wants to forget all about it. Maybe he didn't tell you his past because you may of not accepted him for who he was when you met him. Other types of mental illness that could cause this is a disorder where a person makes up a lots of lies to be center of attention. Maybe he wanted people to be intrested in what he did or what he said. I am not a professional, so i am not sure. I lived a horrible past with my first husband, there are things that my second hushgand found out from a friend that i didn't tell him. He was angry and confused, but i sat down with him and talked it through. Maybe telling him that you stumbled onto the website and saw what you saw. Just ask him about what you read and saw, maybe he will open up without you confronting him to much. Good luck and i hope it works out.
He just wants people to think he is Mr. great and all. Maybe it is for attention, or that he has just wishes he had done those things in his life. He feels better about himself when he can make people believe he was such a wonderful individual. I am glad he is seeking professional help. I wonder if he will be able to manipulate them too?
Hey there. It could be social anxiety. Maybe he feels so self conscious and unfufilled about his past that when he meets people he find the need to spice it up. When you ever meet someone totally new, do you ever feel compelled to overexagerate or tell them something not true to make them think your 'cooler'? I mean, I know I've said stuff to people just to impress them before.. I for one dont like being rejected and I like attention and for people to look up to me, and I think he wants the same. It must be soo tough to sit back there and hold your tongue! Have you talked to his mental specialist about this and for him to maybe discuss it with him? I think he just wants to flatter himself and get attention.. and really theres not a whole lot wrong with that except for the way he's doing it. I think you should just privately meet with his specialist and discuss a way you two can figure this out. It will probably frustrating for your hus. especially since in his mind he's told these stories so many times, they might actually appear real to him. I know its tough hon, but I think you've gotta get something figured out. Good luck to all of you and take care!
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Why would my girlfriend go to detox? Seroquil or opiate addiction?
I think my girlfriend is lying to me. She told me that she has been trying to get off of Seroquil and has to go to the hospital for "detox" 5-7 days. My brother is a psychiatry resident and told me that withdrawal from seroquil does not require detox and a 5-7 day period is used for withdrawal from heroin or opiates. I suspect she is not telling me the truth and said that she was going to be violently ill and I couldn't visit her. A 5-7 day stop in the hospital where you get violently ill sounds like withdrawal from methadone, not seroquil. What do you think?
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Your brother is correct. Seroquel (an antipsychotic) does not require "detox", nor would she become violently ill from discontinuing it. Benzos, alcohol or opiates are each possibilities, however.
you have to see your girlfriend to be sure if she is telling the
truth or not
probably to withdraw from a real addicting drug , serouel is not addictive.
I am a nurse who has worked in psychiatry and detox.its not seroquil it can be any street drug meth is a big one that is a bad detox, heroin, opiates, also alcohol could be a bad detox I once saw with alcohol a guy with hallucinations but he drank several years and a lot on a daily basis. But alcohol can cause seizures to when detoxing.But it is def not Seroquil that is a prescription and would not be going to detox her doctor would have her slowly reduce her dosage to get off Seroquil. Seroquil is an anti psychotic assess why she is taking it she could be on it for drug induced psychosis which would not be smart then to go off of the seroquil because of what psychosis is also if it is not drug related she should not go off of a psychotic drug her psychosis may return.
I'm a pharmacist. It's spelled SEROQUEL (generic name = quetiapine). It's an atypical antipsychotic and not addictive. It's also used to treat bipolar disorder and sometimes used for unipolar depression, eating disorders, anxiety, etc. She'd be more likely to be put ON Seroquel in rehab to help with any co-existing emotional problems that led her to use opioids, than she would be going to rehab for Seroquel. Detox is for opioids and/or alcohol mainly.
I think your brother has informed you correctly.
On the other hand, frankly, it is none of your business.
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Your brother is correct. Seroquel (an antipsychotic) does not require "detox", nor would she become violently ill from discontinuing it. Benzos, alcohol or opiates are each possibilities, however.
you have to see your girlfriend to be sure if she is telling the
truth or not
probably to withdraw from a real addicting drug , serouel is not addictive.
I am a nurse who has worked in psychiatry and detox.its not seroquil it can be any street drug meth is a big one that is a bad detox, heroin, opiates, also alcohol could be a bad detox I once saw with alcohol a guy with hallucinations but he drank several years and a lot on a daily basis. But alcohol can cause seizures to when detoxing.But it is def not Seroquil that is a prescription and would not be going to detox her doctor would have her slowly reduce her dosage to get off Seroquil. Seroquil is an anti psychotic assess why she is taking it she could be on it for drug induced psychosis which would not be smart then to go off of the seroquil because of what psychosis is also if it is not drug related she should not go off of a psychotic drug her psychosis may return.
I'm a pharmacist. It's spelled SEROQUEL (generic name = quetiapine). It's an atypical antipsychotic and not addictive. It's also used to treat bipolar disorder and sometimes used for unipolar depression, eating disorders, anxiety, etc. She'd be more likely to be put ON Seroquel in rehab to help with any co-existing emotional problems that led her to use opioids, than she would be going to rehab for Seroquel. Detox is for opioids and/or alcohol mainly.
I think your brother has informed you correctly.
On the other hand, frankly, it is none of your business.
Why would I start doing this all of a sudden? Really strange?
I am waking up with my thumb in my mouth. I have never in my life sucked my thumb. Now all of a sudden I wake up every morning sucking my thumb. I have no desire to do it when I am awake and do not remember doing it when I am asleep. I asked my hubby if he noticed it, he said for me not to worry about it, if it helps me to sleep. I do worry about it. Have you heard of such a crazy thing before. I know this is crazy and I have searched the internet trying to find an answer.
Be nice!
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:)
That's pretty funny, you have to admit.
No, I've never heard of this. Is it every night? Are you dreaming about eating? How often are you waking up with your thumb in your mouth? Are you stressed about something?
I'd try to pinpoint something that has changed in your life recently, and I'd suspect it has to do with that. If it really bothers you, you could maybe get one of those things to wear for tooth grinding-- I think you can buy them at drugstores-- and then your thumb wouldn't fit in your mouth.
I'm guessing it will probably go away as abruptly as it started. But obsessing about it won't help. I'd take your husband's advice and try not to worry about it.
Do you have TMJ? Your body is probably doing what comes naturally- it makes your jaw more comfortable.
Do you snore? If that's been a previous issue, then I would think that it is your sub-conscious way of quitting. Most people snore with their mouths open, and putting your thumb in your mouth stops that.
YOU ARE FINDING WAYS IN YOUR SLEEP TO MAKE HER SELF CONTENT ..THAT'S KINDA OF CUTE LOL , I MEAN I WISH , I HAD A WIFE TO LET ME SUCK HER THUMB , MMmmmm! I AM VERY GENTLE !!
I sleep in the fetal position every night no matter how hard I try not too. I actually sleep with my fist balled up as well. I think it's a return back to the womb thing? ( ^ _ ^ )
Looking behind your reaction of surprise, do you enjoy it? Does it feel good? Don't worry about it, unless it progresses to something unhealthy or harmful.
Sucking your thumb is not "crazy." I wish people would stop using that word, especially on themselves. What you are doing in your sleep is known as "self comforting." It might be that you have stressors in your life, and when you sleep, your subconscious takes over and comforts you through thumb sucking. This is not that unusual and I have seen it in adults, especially those going through difficult stressors, like a bad job or the stress of having young children in the house. There's nothing "crazy" about it.
If it disturbs you that you do this, you might try going to sleep with a "stress ball" or something like it in your hands. This might help you squeeze the ball in your sleep instead of suck your thumb. Make sure that you surround yourself with comforting things as you go to bed to decrease stress. I would suggest not watching action films or violent TV shows, or reading horror novels before you go to sleep. It might also help to create a different environment in your bedroom, such as lowering the lights, using candles, or anything that will make going to bed more peaceful and restful.
I would also suggest that you look at your life and see what stressors you have - what stresses you out? Do you worry about things before you go to sleep? Do you go to sleep worrying about things in your life? That might cause you to become upset subconsciously, leading to the thumb sucking.
Anyway, stop calling yourself crazy! this is not that unusual. If you have more concerns speak to your doctor or a counselor. Good luck!
"M" have you thought that you quit smoking when we found out you were pregnant?
Be nice!
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:)
That's pretty funny, you have to admit.
No, I've never heard of this. Is it every night? Are you dreaming about eating? How often are you waking up with your thumb in your mouth? Are you stressed about something?
I'd try to pinpoint something that has changed in your life recently, and I'd suspect it has to do with that. If it really bothers you, you could maybe get one of those things to wear for tooth grinding-- I think you can buy them at drugstores-- and then your thumb wouldn't fit in your mouth.
I'm guessing it will probably go away as abruptly as it started. But obsessing about it won't help. I'd take your husband's advice and try not to worry about it.
Do you have TMJ? Your body is probably doing what comes naturally- it makes your jaw more comfortable.
Do you snore? If that's been a previous issue, then I would think that it is your sub-conscious way of quitting. Most people snore with their mouths open, and putting your thumb in your mouth stops that.
YOU ARE FINDING WAYS IN YOUR SLEEP TO MAKE HER SELF CONTENT ..THAT'S KINDA OF CUTE LOL , I MEAN I WISH , I HAD A WIFE TO LET ME SUCK HER THUMB , MMmmmm! I AM VERY GENTLE !!
I sleep in the fetal position every night no matter how hard I try not too. I actually sleep with my fist balled up as well. I think it's a return back to the womb thing? ( ^ _ ^ )
Looking behind your reaction of surprise, do you enjoy it? Does it feel good? Don't worry about it, unless it progresses to something unhealthy or harmful.
Sucking your thumb is not "crazy." I wish people would stop using that word, especially on themselves. What you are doing in your sleep is known as "self comforting." It might be that you have stressors in your life, and when you sleep, your subconscious takes over and comforts you through thumb sucking. This is not that unusual and I have seen it in adults, especially those going through difficult stressors, like a bad job or the stress of having young children in the house. There's nothing "crazy" about it.
If it disturbs you that you do this, you might try going to sleep with a "stress ball" or something like it in your hands. This might help you squeeze the ball in your sleep instead of suck your thumb. Make sure that you surround yourself with comforting things as you go to bed to decrease stress. I would suggest not watching action films or violent TV shows, or reading horror novels before you go to sleep. It might also help to create a different environment in your bedroom, such as lowering the lights, using candles, or anything that will make going to bed more peaceful and restful.
I would also suggest that you look at your life and see what stressors you have - what stresses you out? Do you worry about things before you go to sleep? Do you go to sleep worrying about things in your life? That might cause you to become upset subconsciously, leading to the thumb sucking.
Anyway, stop calling yourself crazy! this is not that unusual. If you have more concerns speak to your doctor or a counselor. Good luck!
"M" have you thought that you quit smoking when we found out you were pregnant?
Why would anyone care if someone were to commit suicide??
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Anyone who loved the person would care. Everyone is loved by someone.
Have you ever had a loved one pass away? It's just like that. Actually, It's probably much worse. You'd blame yourself and think that, if you only had done something more, the person who commited suicide wouldn't have been so unhappy and it they would still be alive. At least when someone naturally dies, you know there was nothing you could do to save them.
If you are considering it, please seriously think about what you are doing. I know that things are hard (and I've seen a lot of bad stuff in my life), but it doesn't mean that it will always be hard. Plus, there has to be something you'd like to do before you go. Go do it first.
And think of your loved ones, and all the good things that are in your life (even if there are only a few).
I know that there is more in store for you, and that you can be happy again.
Good luck.
Because obviously they cared about that person. Even though I believe suicide is wrong, it doesn't mean that there isn't any grief caused by it. The people close to that person are affected as much by a suicide as a "normal" death.
My life partner of 14 years committed suicide and I cried for two years, her mother is still crying, we love her thats why we cared about it
I would care, particularlly if the person is you.there are other options, open up, have that person or yourself some help, remember "This too shall pass" good luck
It's hard to say. First, people who say loudly "I'm gonna commit suicide.", or make hints about it do not want to die. They need attention, care and they're not to blame for choosing this way, no one becomes mentally ill without a little help from their friends (more likely, family). People who really mean to die will go quietly, make sure no one can stop them.
I would care.Just think that person was so unhappy that he or she saw nothing ahead of them but sorrow or pain. What a life wasted.
Because everyone has someone that cares about them. If they then die, the people that cared about them will still feel a void in their life. Even if they weren't terribly close, they might even feel guilty that they didn't get to know them better, and try to be there for them more.
Because is a sad thing... imagine how bad a person feels if he/she wants to end his/her own life... most people are sensible to that kind of suffering, but apparently not everyone
The answer is easy the ones left behind are grieving for the person they knew and loved. suicide is a very selfish death. The one who does it is not thinking about his or her kids, moms,dad,wives, husbands, friends. And how they have to live with the suicide...asking themselves what could they have done different if they could have done anything different.Suicide stays with the ones left behind
Because that person is loved and to someone that person is everything, they just might not realize it. whether it be a parent, brother , sister , or a bf/gf.someone loves that person enough to want them to be alive.
*A person who commits suicide dies but one death, the loved ones left behind relive that death a million times.*
don't you have a family or friends? they would care
Why would a grown 20 yr old female eat fabric?
ok..i noe this is weird bu since i was like 14, i had this weird "thing" for fabrics.. even thinkin about rich fabrics makes my mouth waters..i even watch HSN when they present shows about textiles and ppl sumtimes think im watchin it cuz i wanna buy stuff...what could cause this ??
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Pica comes immediately to mind.
dont quite know but i do have some old sheets that i was going to give to good will...400 therad count sweetie!!
you may have a disorder called pica.
this causes people to want to eat non-food items. dirt, and crayons are very common. pica can be treqated with a medication or just a strong will not to eat them. ask your soctor if you may have this disorder, and what you can do to get out of it. .. if you want to stop eating fabrics.
glad i9 could help.
I have no idea. lol
But I did once see on "Untold stories of the ER" on Discovery Health about a girl who ate toilet paper. She had eatten it since she was young. She would eat about a whole roll a day.
She had come into the ER due to pain in her stomach. Well, duh they thought it was due to the fact she ate toilet paper. Wrong. It turned out she had an eptopic pregnancy that burst while she was in ER. It had nothing to do with her eating toilet paper and as far as the dr knew she still ate it. lol
There is a name for it. It is called: Pica
I did a search and here are some links I found that you may be interested in:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/pica_(disor...
http://www.boingboing.net/2006/10/25/pic...
http://eatingdisorders.suite101.com/arti...
http://www.emedicine.com/ped/topic1798.h...
I actually developed Pica during pregnancy, and trust me, nothing could make my mouth water like cement grout. I used to suck rocks, if I couldnt find a brick wall to lick. I have no idea why, it went away the moment my son was born, but returned last year when I fell sick. It's a deficiency in the body of some sort, perhaps iron, I don't know. Maybe see a naturapath, or load up on some vitamins from your pharmacy. You might find it goes away, like mine did. Anyway, I wish you all the best!
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Pica comes immediately to mind.
dont quite know but i do have some old sheets that i was going to give to good will...400 therad count sweetie!!
you may have a disorder called pica.
this causes people to want to eat non-food items. dirt, and crayons are very common. pica can be treqated with a medication or just a strong will not to eat them. ask your soctor if you may have this disorder, and what you can do to get out of it. .. if you want to stop eating fabrics.
glad i9 could help.
I have no idea. lol
But I did once see on "Untold stories of the ER" on Discovery Health about a girl who ate toilet paper. She had eatten it since she was young. She would eat about a whole roll a day.
She had come into the ER due to pain in her stomach. Well, duh they thought it was due to the fact she ate toilet paper. Wrong. It turned out she had an eptopic pregnancy that burst while she was in ER. It had nothing to do with her eating toilet paper and as far as the dr knew she still ate it. lol
There is a name for it. It is called: Pica
I did a search and here are some links I found that you may be interested in:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/pica_(disor...
http://www.boingboing.net/2006/10/25/pic...
http://eatingdisorders.suite101.com/arti...
http://www.emedicine.com/ped/topic1798.h...
I actually developed Pica during pregnancy, and trust me, nothing could make my mouth water like cement grout. I used to suck rocks, if I couldnt find a brick wall to lick. I have no idea why, it went away the moment my son was born, but returned last year when I fell sick. It's a deficiency in the body of some sort, perhaps iron, I don't know. Maybe see a naturapath, or load up on some vitamins from your pharmacy. You might find it goes away, like mine did. Anyway, I wish you all the best!
Why wont any one tell me the truth about my deformed face?
i just want the truth and everone is lying to me why are they doing this ie family freinds doctors psychiatrist why are they letting me suffer why i cant cope anymore with there blatant lies i know what i see and it hurts emotinally physiacllly and mentally the truth never hurt no one and that is all i wont i know im deformed facially but EVEryone is lying because i see IT
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I dont know what you really look like but if you are deformed, then yes! You are plug ugly! You look like a pig on a poke, GROSS! Ewww
They dont want to hurt your feelings - get over it
Oh hello you're back. You need therapy, not surgery.
maybe only you see it. Post your picture ands then we can give you honest answers.
As parents they are just trying to protect you...do you mind me asking what is actually wrong with you? I'm not sure how or why they would lie to you about something you can see...
what can i say maybe talk to them about it. if their adult enough u should have a decent conversation alternatively theirs bound to be group sessions with people who are in the same situation as u if u try talking to ur doctor or look it up. i can't believe they aren't trying to help though. hope things turn out okay.
It may not seem like it but their trying to give you confidence and trying to make you feel better about yourself. You are probably the only one who notices it and you criticize yourself when no one else is doing that. Just come out of your shell and know your beautiful.
Do you actually have a deformed face? Or do you just see it as being deformed. You are probably suffering with body dismorphic disorder if you don't actually have a deformity. Type BBD into Google to read up on the disorder, you can get help.
They probably don't see your face as an issue, they see the person underneath.
I think we are our own worse enemy when it comes to criticising ourselves.
This might sound outlandish, ask a blind person to feel your face and ask him/her to tell you exactly what he thinks. Beforehand tell him how important it is to get a truthful answer.
The result will either shut up all those people who lie to you or you may have to change your mind.
Best of luck
look for me, Let's just be honest!...see my e-mail and contact with me
Well email me your pic and as an outider I'll give you an honest opinion. I'm sure you are not deformed facially, but you are going through a phase in a young womans life where you find it difficult to be comfortable with what you look like because of all these magazines and music videos. I've been through it and girls all over the world are. No one is telling you are ugly because you are not! And if it makes you feel better than go through therapy, whatever makes you stronger. Your name says 'positive' so act positive. Good luck!
people who love and care for you see past it and c the real u anyone who cant do that then they dont matter
I told you already - the Worzel Gummidge makeover is the only way to go. If you can't do that then I'm sorry but your stuck.
Get a life and a good therapist. Either you are daft or you do have a body image problem that needs intense, intense, psychiatric intervention or Worzel Gummidge makeover as someone suggested.
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I dont know what you really look like but if you are deformed, then yes! You are plug ugly! You look like a pig on a poke, GROSS! Ewww
They dont want to hurt your feelings - get over it
Oh hello you're back. You need therapy, not surgery.
maybe only you see it. Post your picture ands then we can give you honest answers.
As parents they are just trying to protect you...do you mind me asking what is actually wrong with you? I'm not sure how or why they would lie to you about something you can see...
what can i say maybe talk to them about it. if their adult enough u should have a decent conversation alternatively theirs bound to be group sessions with people who are in the same situation as u if u try talking to ur doctor or look it up. i can't believe they aren't trying to help though. hope things turn out okay.
It may not seem like it but their trying to give you confidence and trying to make you feel better about yourself. You are probably the only one who notices it and you criticize yourself when no one else is doing that. Just come out of your shell and know your beautiful.
Do you actually have a deformed face? Or do you just see it as being deformed. You are probably suffering with body dismorphic disorder if you don't actually have a deformity. Type BBD into Google to read up on the disorder, you can get help.
They probably don't see your face as an issue, they see the person underneath.
I think we are our own worse enemy when it comes to criticising ourselves.
This might sound outlandish, ask a blind person to feel your face and ask him/her to tell you exactly what he thinks. Beforehand tell him how important it is to get a truthful answer.
The result will either shut up all those people who lie to you or you may have to change your mind.
Best of luck
look for me, Let's just be honest!...see my e-mail and contact with me
Well email me your pic and as an outider I'll give you an honest opinion. I'm sure you are not deformed facially, but you are going through a phase in a young womans life where you find it difficult to be comfortable with what you look like because of all these magazines and music videos. I've been through it and girls all over the world are. No one is telling you are ugly because you are not! And if it makes you feel better than go through therapy, whatever makes you stronger. Your name says 'positive' so act positive. Good luck!
people who love and care for you see past it and c the real u anyone who cant do that then they dont matter
I told you already - the Worzel Gummidge makeover is the only way to go. If you can't do that then I'm sorry but your stuck.
Get a life and a good therapist. Either you are daft or you do have a body image problem that needs intense, intense, psychiatric intervention or Worzel Gummidge makeover as someone suggested.
Why why why, please tell me why?
diana you had your whole life in front of you, you were gorgeous, perfect hair and body, smart, intelligent, why why why is this happening, i wish i could of helped you more, i'm so sorry for letting you down, if only you were here again, i miss you, i love you, i wish you were here, you were my little sister, we had our differences but i have always loved you, more than you will ever know, why did you have to leave this world, u were so young only 23, why why why......why.. mom, dad, your other brothers and sisters, ...why, god please tell me why
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Seeking reasons for such unfortunate events is a normal human trait. Even if you had a detailed answer, giving the exact reasons, which rarely helps much, you would still have to cope with the loss, and go through the necessary stages of grieving. Phone Hospice or the Samaritans (phone book) www.samaritans.org Email jo@samaritans.org Go to http://www.mind.org.uk/ and type "grief" in the taskbar and press your "enter" key. See http://talkingminds.15.forumer.com/... Later, make a photo album/scrapbook and/or a shrine in remembrance, and select one day/month for remembering her, maybe planting a tree, as well.
Things happen, and we must move on and accept the fact that we will all pass on eventually. Anything could happen, the apocalypse is predicted for 2012 as it is... I'm sorry to hear of your misfortune, but you must move on. Remember, she's watching you. Get revenge on death by making your sister proud.
um. hmm.
I'm sorry, sweetie. It sounds like something really awful has happened.
I'm really really sorry.
I'm sorry for your loss. Most hospitals and even churches offer some kind of grief management support groups. They're usually free, also. Why not check into one of these groups? It will help you get through this.
I am sorry for your loss. I don't know if Diana took her life or had her life taken by illness or accident, but know that she is at peace and you will see her someday. I know right now that may not be entirely comforting, but in time, it will be once the shock wears off.
Please try to remember the wonderful times with your sister instead the last moments that were the worst. I will pray for you and your family. Take care.
I'm so sorry hon, it really sucks to lose someone we love, and blood we love is all that much harder to lose. With time it won't hurt as much, but the loss of a sister will never go away. But then you don't ever want to forget her, only move past the hurt. Try to occupy your mind as much as possible for a while, hang with friends, do healthy things you normally don't do. Time will help you move up the healing curve. If you can't seem to handle it on your own, you may need to reach out for some help. Don't wait if you have black thoughts, people love you, too! There often is absolutely no logical reason why, try not to ask the question, but I know your mind and heart are screaming for an answer. We are only on this earth for a moment, our goal should be to make the most out of what time we have left. Your sister wouldn't want to be a downer for you. You know that in your heart. Join a support group in your area, there is a great possibility of it helping. They will help you deal with the grief and the questions that can't be answered now. Don't blame yourself, you are not to blame. The support group will help you understand that as well. Don't go it alone. Take care of yourself.
This is to my way of thinking. We are all allotted a time period to achieve certain things in this life, what the certain things are, I don't know, but when we have achieved whatever they are, we are taken. Somehow , there a lessons in all of this for us. I think even the families we are born into are all preplanned for a reason. So be happy that you had your little sister for the time span that you did. Celebrate her life. Don't grieve for her for too long. She would not want that for you. Just don't ever forget her and live a good life for yourself and her and if you believe in God you will know that one day you will see her again.
im sorry that happened (lord loves you and his judgement is best) it was her time to go and it can happen to any of us so just keep her in your heart and her death will not be in vain
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Seeking reasons for such unfortunate events is a normal human trait. Even if you had a detailed answer, giving the exact reasons, which rarely helps much, you would still have to cope with the loss, and go through the necessary stages of grieving. Phone Hospice or the Samaritans (phone book) www.samaritans.org Email jo@samaritans.org Go to http://www.mind.org.uk/ and type "grief" in the taskbar and press your "enter" key. See http://talkingminds.15.forumer.com/... Later, make a photo album/scrapbook and/or a shrine in remembrance, and select one day/month for remembering her, maybe planting a tree, as well.
Things happen, and we must move on and accept the fact that we will all pass on eventually. Anything could happen, the apocalypse is predicted for 2012 as it is... I'm sorry to hear of your misfortune, but you must move on. Remember, she's watching you. Get revenge on death by making your sister proud.
um. hmm.
I'm sorry, sweetie. It sounds like something really awful has happened.
I'm really really sorry.
I'm sorry for your loss. Most hospitals and even churches offer some kind of grief management support groups. They're usually free, also. Why not check into one of these groups? It will help you get through this.
I am sorry for your loss. I don't know if Diana took her life or had her life taken by illness or accident, but know that she is at peace and you will see her someday. I know right now that may not be entirely comforting, but in time, it will be once the shock wears off.
Please try to remember the wonderful times with your sister instead the last moments that were the worst. I will pray for you and your family. Take care.
I'm so sorry hon, it really sucks to lose someone we love, and blood we love is all that much harder to lose. With time it won't hurt as much, but the loss of a sister will never go away. But then you don't ever want to forget her, only move past the hurt. Try to occupy your mind as much as possible for a while, hang with friends, do healthy things you normally don't do. Time will help you move up the healing curve. If you can't seem to handle it on your own, you may need to reach out for some help. Don't wait if you have black thoughts, people love you, too! There often is absolutely no logical reason why, try not to ask the question, but I know your mind and heart are screaming for an answer. We are only on this earth for a moment, our goal should be to make the most out of what time we have left. Your sister wouldn't want to be a downer for you. You know that in your heart. Join a support group in your area, there is a great possibility of it helping. They will help you deal with the grief and the questions that can't be answered now. Don't blame yourself, you are not to blame. The support group will help you understand that as well. Don't go it alone. Take care of yourself.
This is to my way of thinking. We are all allotted a time period to achieve certain things in this life, what the certain things are, I don't know, but when we have achieved whatever they are, we are taken. Somehow , there a lessons in all of this for us. I think even the families we are born into are all preplanned for a reason. So be happy that you had your little sister for the time span that you did. Celebrate her life. Don't grieve for her for too long. She would not want that for you. Just don't ever forget her and live a good life for yourself and her and if you believe in God you will know that one day you will see her again.
im sorry that happened (lord loves you and his judgement is best) it was her time to go and it can happen to any of us so just keep her in your heart and her death will not be in vain
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