Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Why type of yoga, since there are different types is most beneficial for helping lessen symptoms of anxiety?
Answer:
They all lesson anxiety. Mindfulness, breath awareness, body awareness all help anxiety. Exercises that strengthen core muscles and improve balance can help with sensory integration and improve anxiety caused by a lack of physical awareness. It is not the type of yoga, but what specific types of exercises help most.
Why the hell can't I fit in?
No matter where I go, I seem to have trouble fitting in. I've been told by a few people that I'm "different", but that it's not a bad thing. Somebody here once suggested that I might have Asperger's syndrome. I've read about that, though, and I don't fit the criteria. I just don't get it. I know that I'm kind of shy and awkward, but so are a lot of other people. I don't think that my appearance or my clothes are weird, so what gives?
Answer:
I think it would help you to try not to be self-concious
and be happy to be different. I've observed from
a lot of your questions and answers that you are
an independent critical thinker. Remember that
some people will take adversion to those who
think outside of the box and are willing to go
against the grain.
I think you have just not found your concentric
circle yet. You need people around you who
reflect your taste and values and share the
same interest. Have you tried social networking
on one of the match sites? They are not just for
dating. They are also for finding friends to hang out
with.
Here are some of the groups you can be happy
not to belong to:
1. Social climbers
2. Radical Religious zealots
3. Prepsters and yuppies
4. Rednecks
5. The white gangsta rap crowd
I wish you well.
Here are words of wisdom from "The Life of Brian"
" You don't need to follow me, You don't need to follow
anyone. You're all individuals". -
Quit kickin yourself . I think you're a fine gal and if you're ever in my area , you're welcome to drop by and say hello .
i have the same problem there a lot of people with that problem. it takes time 2 get 2 know people!
i think you just don't realize that nobody feels like they fit in. i don't. i been ufckin up since i can't remember. i'm always "that one guy".
but who cares
Honey, fitting in isn't everything. I have trouble in large groups, and with people I don't know, and in strange situations. I always kicked myself too, thinking I was too different, and something was wrong with me. Eventually, I gave up, and basically started presenting the front of "this is me world, take it or leave it, but I am who I want to be". Didn't really think about it for a while (about a year). Yesterday, we had a bbq for my upcoming birthday, and I looked around and realized that, when I stopped worrying about if I fit in, and how people saw me, I started making friends.
For your own sake, stop letting people try to label you. The person who decided you have Asperger's, what were their credentials? Were they a licensed mental health professional that you had consulted? Or just some acquaintance that read an article in a magazine and decided to "play" therapist for a minute? Labels are great for clothing, and storage boxes, but have no bearing on people. Will you feel better with a "reason" you don't fit in? Fine, I was diagnosed with major depression, Social Anxiety Disorder, and anxiety (panic) attacks. So what? That breaks down to I am shy and people make me nervous. Should I have crawled into a hole and lived according to my labels? A label didn't fix me, I did.
I can relate, tangerine. I am different and I don't fit in with most, so I found my own niche of people. And no, it's not a bad thing, I just found that you have to be creative.
I have an IQ of 180 and am science minded. I have an illness that is potentially life threatening, so I cut to the chase when it comes to attitudes. I prefer to communicate in terms of thoughts and feelings rather than facts and opinions because my life is too short to take any of it for granted. I've been told never to speak of science, because few people are science minded. Also, never talk about the shortness of life because others can't relate. So although the friends that I am making/have made are few and far between, they are real and true. I would rather not fit in and be myself than put on an act for something I am not. Perhaps we might introduce ourselves and fit in with one another and find others to accept us, huh?
Its good to be different but what some people mistake is being different in a good way, in a positive way.
okay, i love to swim and im an artist, wow! that's kinda different! i skate all the time, a girl skater? wow! fun!
things like that are different but in a positive interesting way.
But if you act awkward and are too shy, people may think you have some kind of problem , like family, emotional or mental.
Some people also could get confused and set apart from you because they don't know what to expect. i believe its normal but you should try to change your self a little.
Its great to be different but not in a way where it will affect your relationship with friends or people you know.
Its great to like different colors, to have a unique personality and be involved in different things but you will always want to enjoy plain good times with your friends and laugh a little and to do that we ALL must have something in common.
do you understand?? It is soo easy!
Its not about fitting in, its about getting along and having something interesting to talk about.
Keep trying to meet new people. maybe you just havent found the crowd for you.
What would that* give you?
*
"That" is sacrificing being uniquely yourself in favor of a group defined identity.
Fitting in his highly over-rated.
Who wants to be a lemming? Doing what everyone else does. Following the crowd. eh... BO-ring.
Be you. Be original. Be different. What's so wrong with standing out in a crowd?
welcome to the club..
http://www.4degreez.com/disorder/schizoi...
Answer:
I think it would help you to try not to be self-concious
and be happy to be different. I've observed from
a lot of your questions and answers that you are
an independent critical thinker. Remember that
some people will take adversion to those who
think outside of the box and are willing to go
against the grain.
I think you have just not found your concentric
circle yet. You need people around you who
reflect your taste and values and share the
same interest. Have you tried social networking
on one of the match sites? They are not just for
dating. They are also for finding friends to hang out
with.
Here are some of the groups you can be happy
not to belong to:
1. Social climbers
2. Radical Religious zealots
3. Prepsters and yuppies
4. Rednecks
5. The white gangsta rap crowd
I wish you well.
Here are words of wisdom from "The Life of Brian"
" You don't need to follow me, You don't need to follow
anyone. You're all individuals". -
Quit kickin yourself . I think you're a fine gal and if you're ever in my area , you're welcome to drop by and say hello .
i have the same problem there a lot of people with that problem. it takes time 2 get 2 know people!
i think you just don't realize that nobody feels like they fit in. i don't. i been ufckin up since i can't remember. i'm always "that one guy".
but who cares
Honey, fitting in isn't everything. I have trouble in large groups, and with people I don't know, and in strange situations. I always kicked myself too, thinking I was too different, and something was wrong with me. Eventually, I gave up, and basically started presenting the front of "this is me world, take it or leave it, but I am who I want to be". Didn't really think about it for a while (about a year). Yesterday, we had a bbq for my upcoming birthday, and I looked around and realized that, when I stopped worrying about if I fit in, and how people saw me, I started making friends.
For your own sake, stop letting people try to label you. The person who decided you have Asperger's, what were their credentials? Were they a licensed mental health professional that you had consulted? Or just some acquaintance that read an article in a magazine and decided to "play" therapist for a minute? Labels are great for clothing, and storage boxes, but have no bearing on people. Will you feel better with a "reason" you don't fit in? Fine, I was diagnosed with major depression, Social Anxiety Disorder, and anxiety (panic) attacks. So what? That breaks down to I am shy and people make me nervous. Should I have crawled into a hole and lived according to my labels? A label didn't fix me, I did.
I can relate, tangerine. I am different and I don't fit in with most, so I found my own niche of people. And no, it's not a bad thing, I just found that you have to be creative.
I have an IQ of 180 and am science minded. I have an illness that is potentially life threatening, so I cut to the chase when it comes to attitudes. I prefer to communicate in terms of thoughts and feelings rather than facts and opinions because my life is too short to take any of it for granted. I've been told never to speak of science, because few people are science minded. Also, never talk about the shortness of life because others can't relate. So although the friends that I am making/have made are few and far between, they are real and true. I would rather not fit in and be myself than put on an act for something I am not. Perhaps we might introduce ourselves and fit in with one another and find others to accept us, huh?
Its good to be different but what some people mistake is being different in a good way, in a positive way.
okay, i love to swim and im an artist, wow! that's kinda different! i skate all the time, a girl skater? wow! fun!
things like that are different but in a positive interesting way.
But if you act awkward and are too shy, people may think you have some kind of problem , like family, emotional or mental.
Some people also could get confused and set apart from you because they don't know what to expect. i believe its normal but you should try to change your self a little.
Its great to be different but not in a way where it will affect your relationship with friends or people you know.
Its great to like different colors, to have a unique personality and be involved in different things but you will always want to enjoy plain good times with your friends and laugh a little and to do that we ALL must have something in common.
do you understand?? It is soo easy!
Its not about fitting in, its about getting along and having something interesting to talk about.
Keep trying to meet new people. maybe you just havent found the crowd for you.
What would that* give you?
*
"That" is sacrificing being uniquely yourself in favor of a group defined identity.
Fitting in his highly over-rated.
Who wants to be a lemming? Doing what everyone else does. Following the crowd. eh... BO-ring.
Be you. Be original. Be different. What's so wrong with standing out in a crowd?
welcome to the club..
http://www.4degreez.com/disorder/schizoi...
WHY THE HELL AM i DEPRESSED!!!!!?
i have had no morbid pasts in my life everything has been so joyful and perfect and now for the last year (when nothing has happend) i am extremely depressed. I dont know what caused it and i a soo confused!..help!
Answer:
It is a misperception that something has to happen to cause depression. Often that is the case. But, unfortunatley, Depression can "come out of nowhere" or be caused by something physical. Such as, hypothyroidism, post partum and post stroke depression. I would suggest you not beat yourself up trying to figure out "Why?" and start to focus on how and when you are going to start treatment so that you can once again feel like yourself and enjoy life. Good luck to you. I hope you get an evaluation and some treatment soon.
Have you undergone any major changes in your life? School, loose a loved one? Have you been eating properly and getting enough exercise? If you can't pinpoint it ,,I would discuss it with your doctor.
You need to have a complete examination and find out if there is anything physical causing your depression. Talk to your doctor and tell him/her what is going on. You shouldn't continue to go through this without seeking help!
have you talked a "psychic",? when people talk to "psychics" afterwards they seem to go into depression.
awwe. its like one of those gloomy times. you need a vacation. drink some ginseng to boost up your mood. talk to someone, go out with friends. don't let your mind get to this topic
it's probably something hormonal
Answer:
It is a misperception that something has to happen to cause depression. Often that is the case. But, unfortunatley, Depression can "come out of nowhere" or be caused by something physical. Such as, hypothyroidism, post partum and post stroke depression. I would suggest you not beat yourself up trying to figure out "Why?" and start to focus on how and when you are going to start treatment so that you can once again feel like yourself and enjoy life. Good luck to you. I hope you get an evaluation and some treatment soon.
Have you undergone any major changes in your life? School, loose a loved one? Have you been eating properly and getting enough exercise? If you can't pinpoint it ,,I would discuss it with your doctor.
You need to have a complete examination and find out if there is anything physical causing your depression. Talk to your doctor and tell him/her what is going on. You shouldn't continue to go through this without seeking help!
have you talked a "psychic",? when people talk to "psychics" afterwards they seem to go into depression.
awwe. its like one of those gloomy times. you need a vacation. drink some ginseng to boost up your mood. talk to someone, go out with friends. don't let your mind get to this topic
it's probably something hormonal
Why students take the way of suicide after a bad result?????
Answer:
It's because their family and society have probably instilled it in their minds that you are a failure if you don't do well in exams --- therefore they think that a bad result means they have nothing else to look forward to in life (which obviously is not true) and they take the way out!
ITS THE ONLY WAY TO GET ATTENTION
they thinks that their is nothing left in their life and that they cant do anything
it should not to be done they should not leave hope and should try out their best
Because society makes them feel that their exams are far more important than they really are.
Yes it's important to get a good result for your tests, but it isn't everything if you look at the bigger picture of life. In 20 years time, or on your death bed, are you really going to care that you got 58% for your Maths exam, and not 85%? I think not!
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and people get distraught and think that their whole future is ruined. Counseling or a talk with a friend prevents this.
It's either they're so good they dont wanna live with a bad score, or they're so bad their parents can kill them if they still get low scores.
just like adults,they feel useless and thinks no one wants them and feel likes no one cares,and everybody else is wrapped up in their own problems to really realized that something is wrong with that person and they also have a very low low low self estem about theirselves,thats why they're like that including trying to get another for theirself but what they really need to do is get help for their sake before its too late.
momentary insanity due to lack of faith in the largehearted ness of people whom we love and care for
its bcos of too much pressure being put on students
not all students take this way. only who is emotionally unstable, that too for few moments, take this step. those who are emotionally strong or have a Friend or anyone stand by him and make his mind work instead of emotion avoid this step.
ALWAYS REMEMBER - During emotion DONT TAKE ACTION OR DO NOT TAKE IN ANY DECISIONS.
DURING EMOTIONS MIND DOES NOT WORK
A combination of a lot of factors can contribute to suicide after a bad exam.
1) importance of paper qualifications to rise the social ladder in some countries due to a rigid education system
2) high sometimes unreasonable expectations of parents
3) peer pressure and competition in elite schools
4) Lack of pastoral care/family support
5) Equivocating a successful life with excellent grades in school.
It took me years to realise that great results doesn't always end you up in a good job with a good salary and make you happy. Similarly, being less academically inclined doesn't mean you can't lead a successful, prominent life full of joy and content.
Maybe they feel like having wasted their lives up to now. Imagine you鈥檝e struggled through so many grades only to screw up your a-levels or whatever because your not up to your form on D-day 鈥?and that鈥檚 it. Only because of those 100 points you lack you can鈥檛 go to the university of your dreams, can鈥檛 major in the subject you wanted to; you鈥檙e a graduate but it鈥檚 worthless 鈥?and those test results are going to be tattooed on your forehead for the rest of your life.
I can understand that some students come to a point where they can鈥檛 take it anymore. I am about to graduate, and anticipating the probable result makes me doubt that I鈥檓 good enough to live the life I wanted.
Parents should be blamed for this.
its basically cuz dey fell dat dey got bad marks so dey hv no reason to live and their life is a waste but they fail to understand that dey do not only live for themselves but also for their family and friends.
they can also suicide bcuz they feel that their parents will be very harsh with them or they evn do that to escape all the problems that might be result because of getting bad marks.
it shows that such people have no strenght to face the world, they cannot understand other's emotions and take evrything in a negative manner. they don't understand that getting good marks in your exams is not all, there are many other things in life you must look forward to.
so hey why be sad when you get bad marks and suicide, find a brighter side to the situation, think about your future and face it and think of the ones who love you!!
As a student exams and pass marks are heavily focused on and at the end of the day they shape the way your whole life will turn out ie your job/promotion prospects / quality of life
i guess sometimes a bad result is all you need to tip you over the edge when your away from family and friends and have a limited social circle and feel you have no one to talk to
sometimes a bad result can seem and feel like the end of the world and also i think many people are ashamed and feel they have let their families down particularly if they are predicted a good grade and then dont get it
they concentrate too much on the term BAD.Remember BAD is a relative term.What is BAD for some one may be TOO GOOD for some one else.
Because of their attachment wid books,they are book worms.
To do well you have to put your life and soul into your studies. When you cannot do this you feel so incredibly worthless and insecure about the future that you have wasted your entire life on something that you haven't even done well in!
I am a final year student that has problems. I can also see the other students that do not suffer from depression or other mental problems and how nervous and worked up they are about exams and results. There is so much pressure from tutors, peers and relatives to do well that you feel insignificant and stupid when you don't suceed as much. I can understand why students may end up taking suicide when things go bad, it is their life down the drain.
Also I was told by the NHS crisis team (nice people that see you at home after a mental crisis) that they tend to see a lot of students at this time of the year.
Their brain growth is as such,they think that it is their end.Noithing more.They can able to think that extent only.They cannot able to go beyond that.
those students only take the way of suicide on whom the pressure by their parents and other relatives are put for good result
non confidence
Pressure of not knowing what this world is about.
Why sometimes Iam afraid of driving?
Answer:
Possibly low blood sugar? Check your blood sugar level if you are fearful before you get behind the wheel. Eat protein and a little bit of carbohydrate before you start out.
They say the fearful drivers are better drivers, because they drive more carefully.
If you want more info on how low blood sugar may relate to phobias, check out the symptoms link at www.hufa.org.
I was pretty scared to drive when I first started out. What I did was take one of my parents with me and go to a familiar place that there wasn't a lot of traffic. I drove that same block until I could do without hesitation. Then I went to a place where there was a little heavier traffic and did the same thing. After a few months of practicing I tried the highway. It was pretty scary, but I pulled through. I kept going one exit, getting off, and going back the other way. Practice is the key to making yourself comfortable. I practiced for about a year before I went for my license, so don't be in a hurry, if you rush yourself you'll make it worse. Take your time and enjoy it, driving can be a really relaxing thing. Good luck.
Irrational fear. We all have them, but sometimes instead of making us cautious, they control our lives.
Pepper.
Why shouldn't you kill yourself?
Answer:
Because there is so much to live for and thats the easy way out
Everyone faces struggle in some shape or form and to be honest no one said life is going to be easy. But you can't just give up. Just giving up proves it was all a waste of time to begin with. And who could call life a waste of time. You have to fight for everything in life and grasp all the little things we take for granite everyday. No matter how bad your life is someone else has it worst. Ive seen it.
Because there is no easy way out. and there is always a reason to live!
-you might not always feel your best, and things may not always seem to work out, but its like that for everyone, thats life. We have to deal with everything that gets thrown at us, the good and bad things. We are put onto this earth to feel every emotion, sadness, anger, joy, love. ..I dont think anyone is ever given more than they can handle.
Melanie hon. You know it would really tick God off to do that. You think things are bad now, hang in there cuz if you did that it would be worse- right into the frying pan sweetie.
There is so much bad that can happen to a person in life- why would you intentionally go and do harm to yourself? There are so many better things to do with your time than to keep focusing on the negative like this.
Nothing will change unless YOU change it. It will get better but YOU have to make it get better. GET OUT THERE and be part of US! Find someone nearby who needs your help. They are there, you just have to look for them.
If you think you are worthless, then make yourself worthwhile.
You are meant to be right here right now. God chose for you to be HERE for many reasons. Go to church, read, look for it. You'll find the peace you lack by looking in the right places.
Don't give up- let's see some of that sassy stuff you got. Show the world what you are capable of. Anyone can do wrong, can be destructive- either with others or with themselves or with both. YOU are better than that and you deserve MORE!
DOn't sell yourself short.
it's a temporary fix to a permanant problem
you'd be taking the easy way out
you need to be strong
and fight this
because you cant shop with friends, date hot guys, eat, or have money. or eat in heaven or whereever else ur goin so u should at least enjoy life while ur living and do what YOU want to do.
*if your life turns out completly messed up im not the one to blame by saying do what u want to do lol
SUICIDE IS A PERMANENT SOLUTION TO A TEMPORARY PROBLEM. Every day for six straight years suicide was always on my mind. I devised ways in how I wanted to die and ways to carry it out. You name a way of killing youself and I allready thought of it. The thing that really helped me is that I am a obsessive thinker. I think about the pros and cons on everything that enter my thoughts. This is a subject for another topic of discussion. To add to that thought I was in mental health therapy and on meds so that worked also. Anyways thinking about suicide also made me think about living and what I would be missing if I were not alive. ( Everyone is different and this is only my experience). One suicidal thought I had a few years ago helped lesson the daily thinking of it(this is only me but imagine that). My mom loves me very much and dosent want anything bad to happen to me. Right now it hurts me just to think about it but the more I get it out the less power it has in me. My suicide thinking was this. I went over to my moms house and confronted her and said I was going to kill myself and that made upset and I felt she didnt believe me and was talking nonsense. The next thing I did was put a gun to my head and blew my brains out right in front of her. The vision ended when she kneeled on the floor held my body up to hers and cried hysterically. After thinking that I started to cry myself for it gave me pain to think such a thing. If one person loved me that much then why should I give them un-needed suffering. When my parents pass away I want to be alive and carry on the legacy they bestowed on me. If I have problems to work them out on my own. If I cant do so seek advise help guidance and assistance to manage and cope with whatever life throws my way. Also if I can be of service to others even if its being a friend or talking to others to do so. Here is a big reason why I am not dead. When suicide thoughts came in my head I always thought back to when I was a kid. My young thoughts were when I was a kid I saw how good my father was to me. My dream was when the time was right I wanted to be a good father to my kid(s) as my father was to me. If I killed myself the chance of being a parent would never happen. I am not where I need/want to be at this point but the dream is still alive and one day I hope to fullfill it. From time to time suicide still pops up and I tell myself its just a thought and will go away. If suicide comes up again stop yourself and ask IS IT REALLY WORTH ENDING? Focus on your goals and dreams and work on achieving them. Remember this: SUICIDE IS A PERMANENT SOLUTION TO A TEMPORARY PROBLEM. Thanks for the question and try to think more about living. You never know a question like this could help others who are thinking the same thing but cant find the words to say anything to somebody. I am no expert but what you asked helped me out. I look forward to your next question and thanks agian for letting me share.
This Is hard. One you should probly ask someone for help in person. i struggle with the same problem almost everyday. The question of how simple it is. That something to do it with or to have it done is always right there. But i fight it. I think of my friends;; my boyfriend and the people who even though seem as if they dont, care about me. Its hard. ESpeciialy if you dont believe in god and dont think hes there to punish you. I dont. Try simple things first. Like Making a list of what to live for. Talk to people. Get help whatever you think you need.
Why should someone keep on living if they dont seem to have a reason to?
Answer:
Because it would hurt the people around you more than you know. Please go talk to someone about your thoughts.
Everyone has a reason to even if it doesn't seem that way!
If you can't find a reason, PLEASE get some help. There is a place in this world for everyone.
that's what i ask myself a lot of the time, being suicidal. still haven't found the answer.
Maybe if you wait awhile you might find a reason too.
There is always a reason for living,it will just take sometime to think of it,
We lost our Niece she took her life and all of us she left behind our lives are changed forever.
please don't do that to your family,you have a lot to live for trust me.
You need to seek some help please!
everyone is needed,think of your family and friends and call for help.
There is a reason for everyone to live. It may not be evident now but there is. I might ask why are you being selfish and thinking of yourself and not thinking of what the people around you feel. I bet you could find a lot of reason to stay here on earth. Suicidal means going to HELL, and your hell is your worst that YOU can think of.
There is always a reason to live. I know that times can be really bad at times but there is no reason to take your life. If I can recommend you to read a book or see a video it would be to check out "The Secret"
A lot of people say that it is all bull.. but it changed my life for ever. Life is beautiful, your life is beautiful. Please feel free to contact me with any questions or concerns you may have.
Maybe some times we have to go on living for another person-- mum,dad, family--friend-- we can not always see the purpose in our lives--but it becomes clear at some point, l myself tried a way out, l damaged my health badly,l now suffer with that--- but since then-- l honestly have saved my husbands life twice-- once with his heart- and another when he had a bad virus- was unconscious- and l found him--- so you see-there was a reason for me to go on--- but only God knew it at the time.Your "Reason2 will come along too- please talk to your family,friends ,church--anyone who can help you through-- l promise you that things will only get better- ---l love my life today. Good luck and love Jo x x x
There is always a reason to live, always. You just haven't understood your purpose yet, there are many ways to find out what that is. Talk to people, talk to counselors, clergy, school teachers, etc. Look deep inside you and ask what it is that you feel passionate about and look for activities or jobs that suit this need. You have needs, just look inside you.
Please talk to others, please know you are important and there is a reason you are here.
Just because you think you don't have a reason doesn't mean there isn't one. You just don't know what it is yet. Be tough, hang on, and you will see. But sometimes you have to help with it. You cant sit inside the house and say that you have no reason to live. No one comes to the door to create reasons for each of us to live. You have to do that yourself.
I use to ask myself that same question. The basic answer to your question is simply to stay alive so that you can see what happens next.
suicide is selfish, you dont hurt yourself as much as you hurt those you leave behind. and besides, how are you going to get revenge on the people who made you depressed if youre dead
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