Will a complete change help me if i go overseas?

I have screwed everything up since returning home, and not been able to settle, i have severe depression and anxiety, have bene seeing a counsellor and on anti depressants but dont feel like i am getting better as it is my life i am unhappy with and the person i have become, i have screwed up all my freindships adn currently spend all my time with my family which is so depressing at the age of 23 and when i have been independent and had a great group of friends before, i jsut want to leave and i know its kind of running away but i dont see any alternative as if i dont i will most likely stay in this job that i hate, continue eating badly and living where i am and lying in my bed htinkinig in all my spare time..i'm wasting my life and i know it but dont know how to fix it and getback to the girl i used to be. My girlfriend is working in the greek islands so maybe where i have to go out in to the world and be independent will help me?
Answer:
going over seas might not be the best solution for you right now.the cultural shock alone can cuase depression.find a different med if this one isnt working for you...try a different counselor...but keep on keeping on.you will feel better.time is the key to depression.just remember you are not alone

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First of all... GET OFF THE MEDICATIONS !!!

Those SSRI's and antipsychotics EAT YOUR BRAIN!

Serioiusly. get it out of your life! Along with the counsellors.

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Here's a suggestion. You seem like the kind of person who is disturbed(upset) by the actions of those who you percieve as cruel or mean. Separate yourself from them, and learn who you are. I know from experience that certain people aggrivate us and ENJOY doing so. Were you born in the tenth month? if so reply to my e-mail address. Check out The Handbook of Chinese horoscopes, you will be happier around those born in the years of the dog, boar, rat, and ox, these are the positive and sympathetic signs. Cheer up. The kingdom of God is coming soon! Australia is full of nicer people or so my aunt tells me, she married an Australian and now lives there. Best of luck.

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If you have a deep-seated problem with patterns of behaviors, then it's likely a 'complete change going overseas' will save you. It might look smooth in the beginning but it might bring back old habits in the way you relate with people. If you're always thinking others are the problem, you will never see how you contribute to the problem. You need to 'see' yourself first, for all its worth, don't be too hard on yourself though. Changes don't come overnight. Small transformations are internalised which takes years of trying out new habits, new defences, new ways of bonding, etc.

If you can find some success in your own home ground, this is when you can also find the same success or more outside of it. Those of us who go overseas thinking they can make it big, usually does, but only for a time.

You need to 'know' what it is that's causing you problems with people first. Work on them, take communication classes, assetiveness training, church has a lot of good inter-relationship workshops, etc. Work on yourself. It's worth it, you can go anywhere with it and find success with it. Then, just when you think you can do that, you don't have the 'itch' to live anywhere else but in the present! (if you know what i mean)

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