Why ISNT She So MANIC when she's with her BOYFRIEND?

my sister whose been diagnosed for a year now, and is manic for these past few days, she's HORRIBLE, a MESS at home...she provokes many fights, she swears and yells, etc.etc. DO NOT SAY its an ATTITUDE problem its her MANIA , i know because this is the second time she's manic and WHEN she's NOT MANIC she is much much more respectful and decent to get along with

thing is even though she fights with her boyfriend of 4 years still , she went over there to his place and his parents house and my mom asked him if shes Hysterical there, since she is at home, he said no...

Although WE do spend more time with her when she's manic, because her boyfriend works and cant see her as much as we do, afterall we live with her and he doesn't ..
so WHYYY is she only so very baddd to us?
does she hate us? and its not like she's ''normal with her boyfriend'' shes just more ''toned-down''
Answer:
I can relate, sometimes in this weird world we live in; it's easier for people with issues to blow up on Loved Ones rather than an outsider. Why? I don't know, maybe because in their subconscious mind they realize that immediate family will always be there.

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It could be because she knows he respects her and loves her no matter what. Like she thinks that no matter what happens he'll always be there for her. I'm bipolar and i find when I'm with my boyfriend i feel a lot more secure than with anyone else.

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She may not even be aware of it, but she will be meaner to the people she loves most. Many theories on this, but usually it's because she knows you will always be there for her. Maybe eventually her boyfriend will see how she truly behaves during a manic episode. You may want to talk to her doctor about what you should do during a maniac episode.

Good Luck.

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Hi:

See my post on your first question on this jerk boyfriend.

Be Well

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When you lock someone away to help them "get better", you are only making them worse.
You are taking someone with a manic disorder and placing them in a situation they have no control over and forced to psycological disection by people she doesn't know or is uncomfortable with.
She probably got better simply becasue that was the only way out of the hospital. If she goes with the program, she is out in 30 days and labled cured, until the next manic episode.
If the meds have negative side effects, why force her to endure them for your or your familys self interest. Your sister can mange her mania if you approach her in the right way. You have to let her make the decisons about her care and what is within her "comfort zone." This is the ONLY way she will "get better", and she may never live up to your standards, but you have to let her do it her way but not alone.

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